Society has allowed rapists to define what resistance is: screaming, crying, scratching, pushing, kicking, biting, punching. I didn’t resist like that. My resistance was to wriggle a bit, turn my head away when he tried to kiss me, try to stop his hand going into my bra and knickers, push him ineffectually, talk about wanting to get my cab; all things which normal men recognise as not being enthusiastic participation when they are engaging with women but pretend it’s a grey area when they talk about rape. Rapists have managed to get society to believe, that what I did, was consent.
Because I didn’t resist in the way rapists - and society - say that women should resist, they define our non-participation as consent."
A section of the article “How I became a rape victim”
there is no perfect victim.(via lattershed)
- Me: Yeah I would always have parties and smoke pot in the house in high school
- Mom: I wish I would have known this because I was always worried you didn't have any kind of normal social life
- white people: I wish I lived in the forties! Everything was so much COOLER back then, you know?
- japanese people: nope
- thai people: nope
- black people: nope
- latin people: nope
- cuban people: nope
- native people: nope
- korean people: nope
- desi people: nope
- jewish people: nope
- queer people: nope
- vietnamese people: nope
- chinese people: nope
- disabled people: nope